Divorce For Men – A Good Life Tip for Men Facing Divorce
I remember, years ago, when I came home from the then on-the-road job I had Monday through Friday to find my wife and daughter gone and all that was left was one pot, one fork, one knife, and one plate. Divorce for men is never easy, but what I learned from mine may help you! First of all, once she contacted me and told me she wanted a divorce, an obvious fact from the empty house, we agreed to hire one lawyer to get us through it all. This is a big mistake so don’t do this!
Still thinking in my heart we would get back together, I was stupid enough to be talked into signing a legal document that said (if she needed it); I would pay her alimony for LIFE! At first my ex-wife was nice and she never asked for alimony and I was happy I got good visits with my daughter and paid my child support with pride.
Then I met my second wife, the love of my life who I am still married to after 19 years, although I like to add the years I was married to my first wife in at 13 to get to 32 years, a number I will remember like to think of as wearing that old ball and chain for quite some time. But I am going off track.
Divorce for men shouldn’t be like mine. When my new wife and I decided to leave my hometown that my ex-wife still lived in, that is when she went to our old trusted attorney with that old alimony document I signed and well, the law will find you wherever you go and they found me in sunny Phoenix just trying to have a normal life!
I had to fly back to my old hometown a whopping ten times to go before a judge men who I thought would be on my side they weren’t. When my pay check got attached through a court order, I ended up with weekly checks for about $2.00 after all the alimony was taken out it also included my child support, but I’m not complaining about that. How did my ex-wife expect me to live on $2.00 a week! This was in 1989 and is all true.
Finally, at my wits end, I went to court in my hometown for the 11th time! Luckily my old male judge was gone but a stern looking female judge sat before me. Surprisingly, she looked right at my ex-wife and said, ìWhat are you trying to do to this man? He has a life! Go get a job!î I was reeling when I left the courtroom and even more excited when I got the first pay check that was more than $2.00.
Divorce for men is hard because that old lawyer we both hired never really had my best interests at heart or he would have never suggested I sign the stupid life-alimony document in the first place. My advice here, find an attorney and take him out for a beer and ask him questions like, ìAre you divorced? Was it a bad one?î If they say yes to both of these questions, hire them on the spot! In any event, I am very happy now, but those years of alimony were trying years, I almost lost my home in Phoenix, and my new wife was really angry through it all. I think of it as one of life is learning experiences and happily tell my male friends who are thinking about divorce that divorce for men is way easier if you are the fairer sex!