Do the courts really favor women over men during divorce proceedings?
Question by Mary K: Do the courts really favor women over men during divorce proceedings?
I often hear from men who are very critical of radical feminism and the courts that they were robbed blind by their ex when they got divorced, thanks to the court system bias against men and fathers. Their ex wife and mother of their children gets to keep the house, get alimony and a huge chunk of his money, and sometimes he has trouble getting visitation rights supposedly.
Is there any truth to there being a systematic bias against men, and that perfectly innocent husbands get robbed all the time? Or do the men who complain the most neglect to mention that they were abusive to their wife and kids? While some good men get taken advantage of by some women, especially gold-diggers and foreign women, I personally do not know of any cases where the women did not have a good reason to divorce their husbands, or they were abusive. Also, some women lose big time due to divorce as well. I’ve never been married or divorced(but my parents are divorced), so what gives, what do the statistics say?
Best answer:
Answer by Know It All
Of course.
Why would 50% of the marriages here in the US end in divorce of which >75% are initiated by women? Divorce is usually a pleasant experience for women — which accounts for the “75% of them are initiated by women” statistic.
Women’s organizations dismiss Parental Alienation Syndrome because it is “harmful to women” (men are left out of the equation) while we all know and see PAS all around us.
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December 22nd, 2011 at 6:31 pm
Yes because the woman is usually a victim of something. The man is usually guilty of something. We as men should be punished for being so stupid as to marry for a piece of bearded taco.
December 22nd, 2011 at 7:15 pm
I work in the court systems, and the truth is, that 75% of all men who want custody get it. There is a vocal minority of males who are bitter and disgruntled because they lost control of their ex-wives and their finances.
December 22nd, 2011 at 8:11 pm
The statistic say that you need AT LEAST a basic understanding of Statistical Analysis.
In order for a statistical claim to be VALID, the sample should be taken from a much larger population than what you PERSONALY see.
Also the Statistical Scientists should be INDEPENDENT of Political Correctness, or Political Manipulation of the like of VAWA and NOW, which have vested interest in distort & overblown the result to fit their discriminatory agenda.
Rape Crisis, women sheters, center, etc… are all different departments of feminist industry.
Police data are proned to the fraudulent interpretation of the law.
December 22nd, 2011 at 8:48 pm
it is a mistake to believe that somehow every situation is ‘unique’.
after 40 years of very common divorce proceedings, it has to be completely BORING to be involved in divorce cases: precedents are numerous and it is very hard to change a point of law without incurring considerable expense.
December 22nd, 2011 at 9:12 pm
Intuitive, of course you would like to save face for the courts system. But the truth is, they almost always favor the female, and if prenups aren’t established, many wealthy men can get robbed of all their money.
As for custody? Women pretty much always get main custody if they want it, and the fathers are usually left with some weekends here or there, or a summer. It’s very wrong, and very biased. I think the primary caretaker, regardless of what lies between their legs, deserves primary custody.
It’s a gender double standard.
December 22nd, 2011 at 9:37 pm
No that’s not true. In over half the cases men do get custody. The only thing is he has to ask for it. And mostly when they do ask they get it.
December 22nd, 2011 at 9:55 pm
I don’t know too much about the divorce thing but there is something in court called the “pretty-girl-syndrome” (and sorry ladies…a lot of you are probably gonna disagree with me here but I have to get this off my mind), which is when the jury and the judge sympathizes with the girl simply because “she looks so sweet and innocent.”
“How can she possibly have committed that murder?! Just look at her! Shes just a sweet young girl.”
Now compare this kind of trial to a tall black unattractive looking guy who’s about to be tried for lets say the same crime. Do you honestly think he’d get this same kind of sympathy?
Just think of the James Baines case….the guy who was wrongfully convicted to 35 years in prison (YES I’m willing to say it) most likely cause he was black and didnt have the right looks.
December 22nd, 2011 at 10:47 pm
I just want to point out something that you said “I personally do not know any cases where the women did not have a good reason to divorce their husbands” WRONG! there are cases where women divorce because “they found something better” or because their husbands did not kiss their feet or because they can’t handle marriage.
December 22nd, 2011 at 11:24 pm
That’s a big lie put out by misogynists. We all know that usually men end up with the home and the kids and women lose most of their property and future income in the divorce courts.
What I don’t understand is why some men don’t want to sign up for this great deal. It seems they are a little commitment-phobic these days for some reason! Maybe it’s a communication problem?
December 22nd, 2011 at 11:32 pm
Statistic can be manipulated very easy. Systematically, women have a history of being awarded Custody. Of course women have been the Primary Care taker because the Father was working. I have no idea how old you are, but I have a number of friends that either have been forced to take a spare room at a relatives or on a friends couch because paying child support for 2 or 3 kids leaves many men broke with no chance of starting a new life. Yet, Women have enjoyed the comfort of making few adjustments to their lifestyle after divorce.
How would you like to be paying $ 300 a week for 3 kids? I know a guy who pays that much. How would you like to be paying on a house you can’t even live in? Would you enjoy your ex-wifes new boyfriend sleeping in your bed or spending more time with your kids than you?
The tone of your question really suggests your immature and lack real life expereince to assume women only divorce abusive men. In most all cases both spouses become abusive towards each other. Again I highly doubt you have the foresight nor are you likely developed enough to figure out the fact that women are not the innocent victims they have been displayed as.
December 22nd, 2011 at 11:52 pm
most divorce and child custody courts are completely biased, corrupt, unjust and harmful. the wall street journal estimates the avg disputed divorce costs $ 70,000 in legal fees, this is the bounty or incentive for lawyers, quacks and other parasites in the courts to destroy marriages and to create high conflict divorce, it is a multi billion dollar industry. corrupt judges get kickbacks in the form of matching federal funds for each child support collection from fed to state accounts that pay the judges. corruption is rampant. due process is often lacking, custody orders are often made ex-parte, huge financial awards are corruptly determined by judges, contrary to the US constitution that requires a jury to deprive a citizen of rights or property. custody laws are a complete joke, corrupt lawyers know the courts do not follow laws, and simply award custody and alimony as they wish, to what lawyer suits thier fancy or kisses thier ass the best, at the time.
85% of divorces are initated by women, not men, because women know they will usually ‘win’ the divorce and custody game, with alimony, marital assets. and most importantly child custody and child support , which is usually the biggest ‘payoff’ in the divorce game.
The solution is to have a clear presumption in law for 50/50 custody when parents can not agree on a shared parenting plan.. and parents should be allowed to sue the judges, lawyers, quacks or others that deny them of parental rights or other civil rights in the now corrupt and lawless divorce courts. when harmed parents can sue the corrupt judges, lawyers, quacks under RICO laws, just as blacks may now sue goverment employees under federal civil rights laws.. then our laws regarding parental rights will finally have some teeth.
as it is now, our parental rights are about as non-existant as were civil rights in the old south, laws were on the books, but corrupt southern courts and government agencies ignored them.. just as corrupt divorce courts ignore parental rights today…
December 23rd, 2011 at 12:19 am
From the men I know, yes they got screwed.
No reason to get married anymore, unless you like to gamble against the house.
December 23rd, 2011 at 1:14 am
Only if you are foolish enough to pay attention to statistics! If you really want to know what the truth is go to any number of feminist blogs and they will set you straight.
December 23rd, 2011 at 1:59 am
No, no and no
December 23rd, 2011 at 2:15 am
Not always, but more often than not if someone is going to be favored it’s the woman, especially if kids are involved.